Finding Inner Strength

Adversity makes you stronger? Ya well guess what….From the age of 4 when my mom had her first major stroke… So began my journey of growing up with fear and that only grew bigger and developed into the FEAR of change. There were too many times that change and fear combined had paralyzed me. I knew “change” meant the end of one thing…. And I never embraced that it also meant the start of something new.

I recently heard someone very special tell me that the saying “God never gives you more than you can handle” is a lie.  I’ve learned it’s what you do with it, who you turn to, who you rest your hope and belief on, and the choices you make daily.  But I never really understood that until now.

I grew up believing that “no matter how bad you think it is, someone’s got it worse”.  My dad said this often to me growing up.  It’s good to be a fighter.  It’s good to pick your chin up and move forward.  You don’t give up. While this quote is undoubtedly true, the fact remains that you must honor and acknowledge what it is that is ailing you.  You can only bury it and sweep it under the carpet for so long before it finds its way back and challenges your strength.

So sure…. For every hardship we endure in this life, one hopes that they can grow and learn from it so that those skills can not only apply to future circumstances but can also be used to help support others and transfer to other situations… Making you stronger.

Adversity makes you stronger?

Maybe…

It does have POTENTIAL to make you stronger based on how you handle it and how you move forward from it. It can also bring you to your knees and debilitate you forever.  Sounds like a simple and positive spin but it takes a LOT OF TIME and a LOT OF INNER STRENGTH to get there.

I’ve had many many supports throughout my life get me to where I am today. Including and probably THE MOST important supports I have ever had; my parents.  Now with them both gone, my learning curve the past 2 years on HOW to move forward without them has been incredible.

I’ve mentioned it before.  It’s a constant battle and it’s in my opinion one of the biggest and most challenging battles ever…. life and death.  A topic hard for many people to talk about and a topic that’s on my mind every single day from the moment I wake up.

My inner strength has shaped in a way that I never knew would unfold because no one is ever prepared for life and death.  They are matters completely out of our control.

So when creating a picture in YOUR MIND for “INNER STRENGTH”……

Make sure you have a “Fight Song” to play.  These are the words that you can stick inside your brain to get you through it.  WHERE EVER YOU ARE.

These words in particular feel like they were written for me… And that’s how your “Fight Song” should sound too.
FIGHT SONG

By Rachel Platten

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xo1VInw-SKc

Like a small boat
On the ocean
Sending big waves
Into motion
Like how a single word
Can make a heart open
I might only have one match
But I can make an explosion
And all those things I didn’t say
Wrecking balls inside my brain
I will scream them loud tonight
Can you hear my voice this time?
This is my fight song
Take back my life song
Prove I’m alright song
My power’s turned on
Starting right now I’ll be strong
I’ll play my fight song
And I don’t really care if nobody else believes
‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me
Losing friends and I’m chasing sleep
Everybody’s worried about me
In too deep
Say I’m in too deep (in too deep)
And it’s been two years
I miss my home
But there’s a fire burning in my bones
Still believe
Yeah, I still believe
And all those things I didn’t say
Wrecking balls inside my brain
I will scream them loud tonight
Can you hear my voice this time?
This is my fight song
Take back my life song
Prove I’m alright song
My power’s turned on
Starting right now I’ll be strong
I’ll play my fight song
And I don’t really care if nobody else believes
‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me
A lot of fight left in me
Like a small boat
On the ocean
Sending big waves
Into motion
Like how a single word
Can make a heart open
I might only have one match
But I can make an explosion
This is my fight song (Hey!)
Take back my life song (Hey!)
Prove I’m alright song (Hey!)
My power’s turned on
Starting right now I’ll be strong (I’ll be strong)
I’ll play my fight song
And I don’t really care if nobody else believes
‘Cause I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me
No I’ve still got a lot of fight left in me

Finding Inner Harmony

Adversity makes you stronger.

The next 3 messages are going to focus on:

Inner strength.

Inner peace.

Inner beauty.

Today I spent some time in the Fertile Grounds Cafe.  I saw and hugged Dr. Kiltz, the doctor that helped create Eva and Jack after years of unexplained infertility that included 10 failed IUIs and 4 failed IVFs.  Looking back now, were they really failures or was that in God’s plan all along?

He asked me what it could have been. I shrugged my shoulders and could only come up with the first thing that came to mind… Stress.
RJ Journey

 

That 5 years of “unexplained infertility” was a diagnoses at the time that offered us no direction for specific treatment other than textbook trial and error.  But it was during that journey that I learned more about myself and what I thought I could handle and little did I know that it would help me become a survivor down the road.

It was the tools I learned, just like in education or any profession that continue to serve me well.  It was the yoga, the acupuncture, the Chinese herbs, the essential oils, the Reiki, the breath, the sounds, the prayer and the meditation that bring me life…..and bring me inner strength, inner peace and inner beauty.

Time For Change

Everybody NEEDS something.  Change needs change.  To accomplish anything, you need tools. And better yet, if you really want to have options and opportunities, it’s a good thing to have a tool box you can choose from.

In a year that I have committed myself to change, the metaphors and analogies that my new business venture has brought to my life has been crucial.  I’m a visual person and I like to SEE results.  One of the first things you can do; is look into the mirror, and using our solution tool, “decide today how tomorrow looks”.  Think this is only skin deep?  Guess again…. It goes FAR beyond just what others see on the outside and the image you reflect of yourself.

There is nothing to lose when you take the solution tool.  In fact, it has been an incredible reference for me in all areas.

You identify your TOP 2 concerns.  When you look in the mirror, what is it most that you would like to work on FIRST.  Then after targeted approach backed up by years of dermatological practice and study, a recommendation for you is provided by the doctors as your PRESCRIPTION FOR CHANGE.

I love it… And it works. (Remember you get 60 days to try it risk free)

Wouldn’t you love to apply this to all aspects of your life? Well…. You can.

Email me at [email protected] so we can do your solution together.

Step One: Identify Your Top Two

Before you can put your best self forward and be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, it’s necessary to identify your Top 2. What is this?  Get ready for it….

Your Top 2….. CONCERNS.

Sound easy?   Well sure, many of us could probably identify at least 20 top concerns!! But we need to focus on our TOP 2.  Beyond that only gets overwhelming.  This actually can be more difficult than it initially appears.

Identify the TOP 2 things that hold you back, bring you down, or prevent you from being your #1 version of yourself.
Doing this NOW, October 1st of 2015, is going to help you establish some direction on how you can improve your 2016.   It’s going to help you put in place what it is that you should acknowledge in your life as being a consistent setback and use that as a catalyst for setting your OWN New Years Resolution…. 3 months from now!!
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So think about it…. Identify the Top 2 concerns in your life so you can stop wasting time letting them bring you down, and instead find a solution tool to help you identify them, learn from them and help you put them behind you.

You can do this.

Personally, I’m a work in progress. Aren’t we all? I did this in January…. And I have 3 more months to continue on my 2015 journey before I can reflect on my success.