It’s terrible.
Is there really a good time to die?
How about a good “way”?
Is it ok to disappoint? To mess up? To fall down?
AND if you do…. can you ask for help? Are you ok receiving help? Are you comfortable asking for help?
When you find out the person is actually gone. When it really hits you that you will never see them again….
•you think about what you could have said
•what you should have said
•what you wished you had said
But what if you’re left with the everlasting question of “could I have changed their mind?”
“Is there something that I could have done to change their mind?”
“How come I wasn’t enough for them to keep living for?”
“Was it that bad?”
“How long was this going on?”
We are all human. Pain is universal. We all will experience the untimely death of a loved one and the timing is never ok. It’s never on our clock or on our agenda. It doesn’t fit our schedule and it’s something many of us fear. When we lose someone that seems to be something that could have been avoided- the people left in their shadow of death will live the rest of their lives wondering and living in doubt, question, shock, disbelief, sadness, sorrow and trauma.
If you or somebody you know needs to talk to someone- please let them know that it’s perfectly normal and acceptable and entirely understandable to need support during and throughout this time here on earth.
No one was meant to walk it alone.
More people need to understand that everyone needs a life coach. Everyone needs support. It’s human. It’s reality.
💓Mental health matters.
RIP to those who end the pain on their own terms. Whether you were in your right mind or not, you were successful and we are your survivors.
My babies don’t know it yet but I know the timing is coming soon where they need to know how their grandpa died. They ask questions about grandma and grandpa and I am well aware that some things are hereditary. Someday they will know and I’ll explain what I know the best I know how. Until then, the only thing we can wish on anyone is that the day we are in is the best present we can make it. Each day it’s our responsibility to make it the best life we know how. Peace. Connection. Grace. Gratitude. Love.
